The problem with positive psychology

The problem with positive psychology

A friend called recently to ask for my help. She was feeling crappy about something and wanted to know how I stayed so positive all the time. My response surprised me because I think of myself as a born optimist. “Well, it’s a learned behavior. I have to work at it!”,...
Why Wonder Woman made me cry

Why Wonder Woman made me cry

I sit in the theater as the lights dim, the scent of popcorn (and of chocolate popcorn!) wafting through the air. It’s silent, except for an occasional rustle and crunch. My friend Ann sits beside me. (Side note: Ann is a statuesque Irish-American woman, with...
Not reaching your goals? Change your perspective.

Not reaching your goals? Change your perspective.

I’ve noticed something with my clients lately (and – if I’m being honest – for years): Their ability to reach their goals has less to do with the nuts and bolts of our work (i.e., food, exercise, sleep, all that good stuff)… … and more to do with how they...
Setting goals and why you should question your beliefs

Setting goals and why you should question your beliefs

Don’t you love when you see “March or April” on your calendar? It gives me a burst of optimistic energy – even though I know there are many cold weeks left between now and Summer. (At least in Seattle, where spring weather is indistinguishable from...